There are millions of relationships in this world.
Many relationships require different things than other relationships.
But they all have one thing in common. Do you know what that is?
Think about it.
What is the ONLY thing that EVERYONE wants in EVERY RELATIONSHIP?
LOVE
Problem is, LOVE is different for everyone. How do we know what Love is for other people? Communication. But how do we communicate to someone that is not communicating?
Here's How...
We need to LEARN their language- learn their thoughts, their motivation for love and their agenda for earning it.
Studies and experience have genderized a lot about love, what we've gathered is:
Men are Physical creatures- the same as they are carnivores who love sports, cars & logic
Women are EMOTIONAL creatures- the same as they are nurturers who love beauty, people & feelings
LOVE ... the formula for intimate relationships
One easy formula that women have is
X+Y=Z
X= Emotional Connection (aka friendship, respect, and empathy)
Y= Physical Connection (aka attraction, chemistry and passion)
Z= Sex (aka "making love")
and this HAS to be true and correct for ALL women of any kind of any time of the day unless they are 1. a prostitute or 2. a vegetable...
The number one rule is: "I am a woman and I have the right to refuse SEX to any man if my emotional needs are not met.
Okay- 2nd problem.
This is the woman's language.
What is the man's language? Here it is:
The easiest formula is a man's
Z+Y=X - notice? It's backwards!
X= Emotional Connection (aka friendship, respect, and empathy)
Y= Physical Connection (aka attraction, chemistry and passion)
Z= Sex (aka "making love")
and this HAS to be true and correct for ALL men of any kind of any time of the day unless they are 1. gay or 2. a vegetable...
Their number one rule is: "I am a Man and I have the right to refuse my EMOTIONS to any woman if my Physical needs are not met.
Wow!
See the problem?
Men won't give their 'personal emotional best' with out having their sexual/physical needs met.
So what do we do?
It's TIME to Compromise. That's all we can do. Give a little bit of LOVE to him (which HAS to be something sexual to meet that physical need) and he'll give a little bit of LOVE to you (which HAS to be something non-physical to meet your emotional need)
These are my thoughts- not copied, stolen or borrowed from anyone else.
-Crystal J. Wells
