My Own Goals & Wants

(written sometime before May 2007)

I have no idea when I wrote this or WHY I was feeling this way- but it's always good to come back to, especially in times like these.

:'o(

1. I don’t ever want to feel like I HAVE to have a man in order to make me happy.
2. I want to know and feel confident that I can take care of myself financially.
3. I want to be kind and courteous to others, familiar or strange.
4. I don’t want to steal from anyone or anyplace ever again.
5. I want to eat healthy foods and make healthier food choices most of the time.
6. I want to exercise regularly and be in shape.
7. I want to be open to other people’s ideas and suggestions and not be so controlling.
8. I want to be known for my dependability and stability.
9. I want to be committed to my agreements that I make to my friends, family and customers.
10. I don’t ever want to be wishy washy or indecisive.
11. I respect my body by not using drugs and abusing alcohol.
12. I like to sing and I want to feel confident enough to sing out loud more often.
13. I want to be more friendly and strike up a conversation with anyone at anytime.
14. I want to be 100% honest with not just with others, but also with myself most of all.
15. I want to be a mom, and I want to be a good mom to my kids.
16. I want to think on the positive side of things rather than the negative.
17. I don’t want to nag or complain about stupid things.
18. I want to have an immaculate house and know how to keep it that way.
19. I never want to cheat on my husband.
20. I never want to leave my husband unless he tells me to leave- and Violence will NOT be accepted.

I'm a trouble maker... but still cute!

Hey Mom~ so I did something REALLY bad, but to make up for it, I've decided to do something REALLY cute!

I colored myself with black permanent marker... oops! Well, that's what you get for leaving them within my reach! haha! But to make up for it, I put my sunglasses on Missy and stood long enough with a smile so you could take a picture. :oD

Aren't I an angel!?!?!

"mom! something stinks... I promise, it's NOT me!"

I just remembered that I set up this blog spot back in 2008. Guess I should still be adding to it now that Brooklyn is here- right? :o)

101 Things To Do With A Toddler(not written by me... found by my friend Carrie)
1. Color
2. Blow Bubbles
3. Play Hide-and-Seek
4. Peek-a-Boo
5. Play Chase
6. Do Fingerplays
7. Sing a song
8. Collect rocks in a basket
9. Make an obstacle course out of cushions and/or furniture
10. Make a fort out of cushions and sheets
11. Go for a Walk
12. Make a Car out of a box
13. Read a book
14. Go to the park
15.Fingerpaint
16. Play with Play-Dough
17. Toss Bean bags into a Bucket
18. Play the shell and pea game
19. Dance to music
20. Download games for toddlers from the Internet
21. Practice putting things in and taking things out of boxes and bags
22. Make a temporary slide out of a table leaf and your couch
23. Roll a ball back and forth on the floor
24. Scoop dirt or sand into a child's bucket (or use a serving spoon and bowl)
25. Practice climbing by stacking boxes on top of each other (only with adult supervision)
26. Put on a puppet show
27. Go fishing with a yard stick and yarn
28. Make a Horseshoe game
29. Make a Shape Puzzle
30. Play paper basketball
31. Run through a Sprinkler
32. Play with a bucket of water and a sponge (PLEASE WATCH CHILD AT ALL TIMES!)
33. Make a Drum out of an oatmeal box 34. Play with a kazoo 35. Wash windows together
36. Bang on Pots and Pans with a spoon
37. Brush each other's teeth
38.Play dress-up with stuffed animals and your child's clothes
39. Stack canned or boxed food on top of each other
40. Let child stack mixing bowls inside each other
41. Make a playhouse out of a large box
42. Let child play with a sticker sheet (make sure your child doesn't eat them!)
43. Put stickers on fingers for finger puppets
44. Play a musical instrument together- i.e.recorder, piano, etc.
45. Go on a Smelling Hunt
46. Frost Cookies
47. Plant a flower or vegetable plant together
48. Roll a tennis ball into an empty trash can or bucket
49. Draw on a mirror with dry-erase markers
50. Play hide and seek together- trying to find a stuffed animal or other object

51. Have a splash party together in the bathtub
52. Put a leash on a stuffed animal and walk around the house
53. Record each other on a tape recorder (great for scrapbooks or journals!)
54. Make and try on paper hats
55. Give a piggie back ride
56. Play "Horsie"
57. Talk into an electric fan (it distorts your voice)
58. Play tug-of-war with a blanket
59. Collect flowers (felt, artificial, real...)
60. Make a camera and go on a Safari
61. Play games with frozen juice lids
62. Disconnect your phone and pretend to make phone calls to relatives
63. Leave your phone connected and really make phone calls to relatives- let your child talk too 64. String large beads onto or along a shoelace
65. Squirt each other with squirt bottles
66. Glue shapes onto paper
67. Make sock puppets
68. Make paper puppets
69. Fill an old purse with toys
70. Use a paper towel tube as a megaphone
71. Make binoculars and go "Bird Watching" or "Stuffed Animal Watching"
72. Put snacks in different fun containers (paper sacks, empty canisters, etc.)
73. Act out a story from a book
74. Walk on a balance beam- use a 2x4 placed on the ground
75. Draw with chalk on the sidewalk
76. Sketch an outline of your child on the sidewalk or paper with chalk
77. Paint child's palms with tempura paint and blot on paper. Makes a great card for loved ones!
78. Put lipstick on child and kiss a mirror
79. Make a puddle on cement and splash barefoot in it
80. Let child decorate and eat an open peanut butter sandwich
81. Make a toilet paper barricade for child to go under, over, or through
82. Do the Hokey Pokey
83. Make a super-hero costume out of household items
84. Do Knee-Bouncing Rhymes
85. Play "Red Light, Green Light" saying "Go" and "Stop"
86. Make a shoebox train for stuffed animals
87. Make a pillow pile to jump on (keep it clear from any hard surfaces, including walls!)
88. Make an easy puzzle with felt and velcro
89. Make bracelets or collars for stuffed animals out of pipe cleaners and jingle bells
90. Learn numbers from a deck of cards
91. Play the matching game with a deck of cards
92. Make a domino chain
93. Have a picnic in the park, backyard, or living room!
94. Play dress up in Mommy or Daddy's clothes
95. Make a tin cup telephone and talk to each other in it
96. Make a nature collage
97. Mirror each other
98. Make a "Mummy Mommy" with toilet paper
99. Make a tape recording of short music selections & instructions to move in fun ways
100. Make and walk along a toilet paper trail
101. Take a Nap!

The LOVE Formula

There are millions of relationships in this world.

Many relationships require different things than other relationships.

But they all have one thing in common. Do you know what that is?

Think about it.

What is the ONLY thing that EVERYONE wants in EVERY RELATIONSHIP?

LOVE

Problem is, LOVE is different for everyone. How do we know what Love is for other people? Communication. But how do we communicate to someone that is not communicating?

Here's How...
We need to LEARN their language- learn their thoughts, their motivation for love and their agenda for earning it.

Studies and experience have genderized a lot about love, what we've gathered is:

Men are Physical creatures- the same as they are carnivores who love sports, cars & logic

Women are EMOTIONAL creatures- the same as they are nurturers who love beauty, people & feelings

LOVE ... the formula for intimate relationships

One easy formula that women have is

X+Y=Z

X= Emotional Connection (aka friendship, respect, and empathy)

Y= Physical Connection (aka attraction, chemistry and passion)

Z= Sex (aka "making love")

and this HAS to be true and correct for ALL women of any kind of any time of the day unless they are 1. a prostitute or 2. a vegetable...

The number one rule is: "I am a woman and I have the right to refuse SEX to any man if my emotional needs are not met.

Okay- 2nd problem.

This is the woman's language.

What is the man's language? Here it is:

The easiest formula is a man's

Z+Y=X - notice? It's backwards!

X= Emotional Connection (aka friendship, respect, and empathy)

Y= Physical Connection (aka attraction, chemistry and passion)

Z= Sex (aka "making love")

and this HAS to be true and correct for ALL men of any kind of any time of the day unless they are 1. gay or 2. a vegetable...

Their number one rule is: "I am a Man and I have the right to refuse my EMOTIONS to any woman if my Physical needs are not met.

Wow!

See the problem?

Men won't give their 'personal emotional best' with out having their sexual/physical needs met.

So what do we do?

It's TIME to Compromise. That's all we can do. Give a little bit of LOVE to him (which HAS to be something sexual to meet that physical need) and he'll give a little bit of LOVE to you (which HAS to be something non-physical to meet your emotional need)

These are my thoughts- not copied, stolen or borrowed from anyone else.

-Crystal J. Wells

ARE YOU A BIG BOY?

(Interview with my little man)

So mom, I’ve been thinking, I’m ready to advance.

I’m tired of diapers and ready for underpants.

What happened to my baby? Are you sure you want this?

Being a baby was fun, but There’s not much I’ll miss.

Well there are a few things that only big boys can to do-

So here are some questions I’m going to ask you…

No problem Miss Mom, I’ll show you- I’m cool!

And in just a few years, I will even start school! !

If you pass this small test, then a big boy you’ll be

I am a big boy mom, just watch me, you’ll see!

1. Are you a big boy?

Yes I am mom, I am! I can sing ABC’s and count 5 on each hand!

2. Can you tie your own shoes?

Yes I can mom, I try!

I try my darn best ‘cause I am a smart guy!

3. Are you a big boy, do you clean up your toys?

Yes I do mom like all of the other girls and boys.

4. Do you eat all your food?

Yes I do mom, All done!

I clean off my plate so I can go have some fun!

5. Are you a big boy, are you quiet most days?

I am quiet, obedient and loving I say!

6. Are you a big boy, do you help mom and dad?

I help Daddy and Mommy which makes them real glad!

7. Do you brush your own teeth?

Yes I do mom I brush. Then I go to the potty, wash my hands then I flush!

8. Are you a big boy? Do you listen real well?

I always listen mommy~ gee, couldn’t you tell?

9. Are you a big boy, do you play nice with friends?

I play nice with my sister, my friends and cousins!

10. Are you a big boy, can you get dressed real fast?

First my pants, then my shirt and my socks and shoes last.

11. Are you a big boy, do you still pick your nose?

Only when there’s a tissue, otherwise that’s just gross!

12. Are you a big boy, do you think you’ll run fast?

Oh yes, didn’t you see me- that was me who just passed!

13. Are you tall like daddy?

Yes I am mom real soon!

I’ll be so tall like daddy , real tall like the moon!

14. Are you a big boy can you go fast asleep?

I go to bed on my own and I don’t make a peep!

15. Do you use the potty to pee and to poo?

Yes I always use the potty, at least I always try to.

So you are a big boy~ you do ALL that yourself?

Well sometimes I need reminding and also a little help.

A Poem for Nikkole's Birthday